Monday, September 30, 2013

You don't have to be perfect

By Joel Brens-

Dear Jayden- A lot has changed since the day you made your abrupt entrance into the world. You have overcome so much already. I see progress in your development every day. It gives me the greatest sense of pride. Your ability to communicate is making parenting more manageable on a daily basis.

I wish I could explain to full term parents what it's like to always be holding your breath. It's exhausting, because the stress I feel is a direct result of the love I have for you, and that I want nothing but the very best for you. Of course our worries these days pale in comparison to what we felt during your first few weeks, when we could only hope and dream you would be as far along as you are now.

So much is changing in society and culture as we turn into parents and begin raising kids of our own. Do I know what the future holds for you? No clue. But there will come a time in your life where you may feel that being perfect, or the best at what you do, is the most important thing. I certainly want you to strive for success, but I will allow you to make mistakes, sometimes more than once. I certainly have.

If you are struggling with school, with friends, or having trouble finding your path, never be afraid to talk to me about it. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Someday you will understand that life is complicated, that humans are capable of things that don't make sense, but also that people are capable of amazing things, you included.

What I hope for your future and the path you choose to take might be very different, and that's ok. Just make a choice to do your very best everyday and great things will come your way. I love you beyond comprehension.



  1. Awesome letter! Just about made me misty eyed...

  2. So incredibly powerful, Joel. I am misty-eyed!