Saturday, May 11, 2013

A Papa Says Thanks- A Tribute To An Amazing Wife And Mother

By Joel Brens-
An amazing wife. An even better mother

The moment I stopped looking for love I met my future wife. As cliche as it sounds, that's exactly how things played out for me.  My wife and I hit it off pretty famously from the outset. The first thing I noticed about her was her unwavering friendliness. There was such a genuine warmth about her. We shared so much in common. We are both huge geeks. Her ability to make be belly laugh is something I absolutely cherish. We both came from close knit families, and both wanted to start a family when we were married. Little did we know at the time our son's journey would drastically define and mold who were were as parents and people.

We found out less than two months after we married that we were expecting our first child. We were elated, though my father was losing his battle with cancer. As I talked about in an earlier blog, one door was closing as another was opening. I struggled for a while with my dads passing. The support, compassion, and comfort my wife brought me during those days is just one of a million examples of the wife she was and has been to me.

As we got deeper into our pregnancy, concerns started to arise. Elevated blood pressure, high proteins, and a "old" placenta, as the doctor put it, created a scary scenario that an early baby might be a reality. While we were optimistic and hopeful that things would carry on week by week, I was a nervous wreck on the inside. But there was little I could do to affect the timeframe of when it was time to be parents. My wife, however, like so many other moms, had to keep calm and relaxed during very uncertain times. I know she was worried, but I never really got a sense of how worried because she always acted cool as a cucumber. Even when she was put on bed-rest at 30 weeks.

Once my wife's umbilical cord artery flow became diastolic, meaning it was starting and stopping, the NICU team decided we were days from bringing our son into the world. Much to our surprise, our son decided to come a day earlier than we expected. It was that day I discovered how just much I loved my wife and the mother I knew she would become. She was always at the NICU. She always was upbeat and ready to embrace whatever turns we faced. I'll never forget that.

Through all the ups and downs, through laughter and tears, my wife has been an extraordinary mother. Even when she went back to work full time, she puts enough blood/sweat/tears into parenting it could considered a second full time job. The relationship I have with Jayden is nothing short of wonderful, but there is just something different about the bond he has with his mommy. She has the ability to keep him interested and focused longer when we are playing with toys. He regularly falls asleep while cuddling with her. The level of comfort, love, attention, and laughter Gena brings Jayden is hard to explain. I am constantly amazed at her dedication as a wife and a mother.

Gena this Mothers Day I celebrate the amazing person you have become. The love and dedication you have to Jayden is something to marvel at. I don't ever want you to think I don't appreciate all the hard work you have put into your professional and personal life.

I couldn't be blessed with a better wife and mother to my son. I love you Gena, Happy Mothers Day!!!

Our Happy Family

1 comment:

  1. I love, love, LOVE this post. Yay Gena! HUGS to the Happy Family! :)

    - Deb Discenza . . . Mom to Becky, 30-weeker